I am confused!! by Devi

I am confused! In fact I am frequently confused yet I would be too shy to tell people or ask any question.

It kills me to feel so suppressed.

In Tony Robbins workshop, I saw that when people stand up and say "I am confused". Everyone clap and rejoice with song and dance. Tony says that Confusion is good, it means that you are about to learn something.

Why didnt I think of that before?

And it is so true. Without confusion, you think you learn, you actually do not fully understand it.
Only when you are confused, your brain makes a distinction and you learn.

Now I am glad that I am confused and I am no longer shy to ask.

As long as I carry on life this way, I will continue to learn and grow.
I feel great!

Share with me your thoughts

cheers, Devi

Rules that trigger off my happiness - by Sandra

So exactly what are the rules that triggers off your happiness..

Tony Robbins talked about trigger. Trigger are the set of rules that decide how you feel.
I learnt that I feel appreciated only if the following rules are satisfied
1. people would have to praise me
2. people would have to smile at me
3. people would have to thank me sincerely
4. I would have to do it perfectly, meeting my own high standard
and more

Then I realised oh God, so many conditions, and none is within my control.

So I have made it so hard to feel appreciated and be happy.

What if people are busy and did not praise me. What if in the rush, they sound routine and not sincere. What if my standard is so high that I could not meet it.

So I keep beating myself up.

Now I know why I feel lousy all the time.

I decided to change my criteria to feel appreciated. It is still important for me to feel appreciated to be happy.
My new rules of feeling appreciated are now
1. I do things for people
2. I enjoy doing it
3. It helps them

A smile and praise would be good, but no longer are the rules anymore.

Now I feel relief and I could be happy most of the time.

See how simple is this, by changing the rules that trigger my happiness, I set myself up to be happy most of the time.

People around me sense the change in my state. My happiness index is a lot higher now.

Try it and let me know how it works for you.

cheers, Sandra

Whats wrong with me? by Linda

I am Linda. Before today, I feel that life is so unfair to me. The question I keep asking myself is "whats wrong with me?" "why all these bad things keep happening to me?"
I have no control of life and everything is breaking down for me.

I just lost my boyfriend and this is the 8 times. Why cant I keep my boyfriend? I really love them. "Whats wrong with me?"

Today, I attended Tony Robbins workshop, I learnt that I have asked the fking wrong question all the time. By asking "whats wrong with me?" I am attracting all the "wrong" results to me.

Today, I change my question to "How can I share my gift with people around me". I feel happier because I have things to share. I no longer focus on myself, I shift the focus on how I can help people instead.

I came out of the seminar liberated, all the tension is eased off my face and my body. People around me noticed the difference.

I hope you are asking the right question. Otherwise it is time to change.

Tell me more about your question in your life.
Love to hear from you.

cheers, Linda

I can feel your manly presence- by Bimo

For a long time, the only way I knew of how to get attention from girls is to make a fool of myself. I will dance and do silly acts just to catch their attention. People call me names like "clown", "joker".. You get the picture. No one really care about me. Yes I can get a few gigglish laughter from the ladies, but nothing more.

Until that special day, I was taught how to put forth my manly presence. I saw this girl, she was laughing at me when I was on stage. She was prejudging me, I can see that. I like her, I feel the pain that everyone was prejudging me. Yet I hold back my pain. I put on my manly presence. I stop my dance. I stay right into her eyes, feeling her love. Through my eyes, I tell her how much I feel for her, how much I like her. Interestingly I watch her getting nervous, and putting her legs down, standing strong, as though she was trying to resist the energy I am sending her.

At that point I knew, I have pierced through her heart that at some level we connected.

I love this moment. It is a breakthrough in my life.

I am transformed. I no longer need to do silly act to get attention. I now know I can be my real me and yet I can get girls attention for my real me.

This is a precious moment of my time. i will treasure it for a long long time to come.

If you know what I mean, leave me your comments.

cheers, Bimo

The five languages of love - by Paula

Any time you feel tensure in your relationship, it is a sign of trouble.

Being aware of it helps you do the right things before it becomes a big issue.
Remember each of us have different needs and understand love differently.
I have 3 sons, each of them express love and feel love differently. To Ryan, my youngest boy, love is spending time together, love is telling each other, love is touch. Yet to Lionel, my second boy, love is about spending time together and doing things for each other. He does not verbalise love and does not like touch. So each one of us is different when come to expressing love and feeling love.

Once we are aware of the different languages of love, next is to apply the right type of language of love to help the other person feel loved.

The 5 languages of love are:
Quality Time
Act of service
Touch
Verbalise
Gifts

I find that this rules apply to all kinds of relationship. Open your eyes and feel the needs of people around you. Life would be different if you do that.

Tell me more about your story.

cheers, Paula