The Tolerant Thai Culture

The Thai culture is an interesting culture. This is the place where people are allowed to do pretty much whatever they want as long as they do not hurt others in doing so. The Thai Culture is such a very tolerant culture especially on the topic of sexual orientation. It is widely accepted to have 3 types of sex gender, male, female, lady boy. Even teasing is done in such child-like manner that no one gets offended.

In Thai language the word "puchai" is a man, "puying" is a woman, "puli "(katuey in slang) or lady boy is a he/she; there is absolutely no negative connotation associated with it. People break into laughter when using them interchangeably. For example, people laugh when they see a puying who you call puchai, and a puchai who acts like a puying and a puli with a hairy body from a Western country.

My adventurous life sadly without love.. by Lindsy

I love adventure. I will travel every opportunity I have. I move from places to places. Unfortunately my relationships suffer because of my lifestyle. The longest relationship I have lasted for up to 3 months only. I have like 10 different boyfriends by now.

She left me... John

"Cassey like a hurricane just blows my heart away
every time she comes around again,
leading me just far enough to hope that she might stay,
then she’s gone just like the wind."
(Song: Hurricane Casey)


She left me 2 months ago. We have been together for 2 years. She left me for another man. I gave up my business and moved to a new place with her, to spend time with her to love her. Yet she left me.

I cannot understand. All I wanted is to be with her, to love her.

On hindsight, she seem to value certainty more than love. She didnt want me to sell my business. Little did she know that I cant bear to remain in my home town anymore when my father passed away. It brings back sad memories.

It didnt help when I am not making enough money now that I have to work for people.

I feel useless, I lost my balance. I dont know what to do next.

Looking back, the reason she marries me is for the certainty I provided her, with my business and my ability to make good money and provided for her lifestyle. When I decide to sell my business, everything changed. She is not willing to go through uncertainty in life with me. I love her, but it would pain me even more to have to stay in my home time. All in all, I decided that I have made the right decision to move on. I never regretted that. Thats what I need to feel alive inside me.

I hope in 6 months time I have good news to share with you. For now, I have to move on and stop thinking about her.

The proposal that was not meant to be - James and Angel

This is a proposal that was not meant to be.

James stood up in a seminar with more than 1000 people. Such courageous act of love. He proposed to the girl he loves for 4 years. He promised a house, a yatch and he whipped out the diamond ring. I can see that he has worked so hard for the last 4 years for this very day to present the gifts to her.

The lady, Angel, was surprising cool about it. She turned around and asked the speaker at the seminar whether he is the right person for her. This is a life improvement seminar. Wow such an important life decision to pass on to a stranger. No matter how good the coach is, I dont think it is a responsible act to let someone else who hardly know the two of you to decide your fate.

The conversation between the coach and Angel went on for an hour. For the whole time, James is kneeling on the floor without moving an inch, earnestly waiting for a response from Angel.

Angel said that she has unresolved issues. Surprisingly, the coach read her well and told her that she is playing him. Throughout the hour, she has not shown compassion for him, she left him kneeling on the floor, she did not show any feeling for him.
Angel insisted to talk about her unresolved issues. The coach would not let her. He turned around and asked James to stand up. Jame continued to stay on the floor, his eyes were pleading her. Finally she said yes to him. The crowd applauded, she accepted the ring.

The coach turned around and tell James not to accept the marriage for now. He advised him to hold it for another 3 to 6 months. He didnt think that Angel feels for James at all. He told Angel that she needs to grow up to stop being selfish. He advised James to wait for the moment when he can feel her genuine love through her eyes, not by what she says.

Wow, this is so unexpected. Yet it is so typical of a marriage where one's love is not fully reciprocated. What good does it do to either party. A marriage set out to fail, and bring misery to all.

I wish the couple well. I hope they can learn from this episode. In my heart, I pray that Angel would mature up and learn to love him as much as he loves her. I can feel his pure heart is full of love for her. What was admirable of him is that he knew that he was giving her unconditional love while she was giving her love only if she gets what she wanted- the house, the lifestyle she demanded. Yet he was willing to accept the marriage when she said yes to him.

Such a selfless man, my heart goes to him.

Share with me your thoughts...

I am confused!! by Devi

I am confused! In fact I am frequently confused yet I would be too shy to tell people or ask any question.

It kills me to feel so suppressed.

In Tony Robbins workshop, I saw that when people stand up and say "I am confused". Everyone clap and rejoice with song and dance. Tony says that Confusion is good, it means that you are about to learn something.

Why didnt I think of that before?

And it is so true. Without confusion, you think you learn, you actually do not fully understand it.
Only when you are confused, your brain makes a distinction and you learn.

Now I am glad that I am confused and I am no longer shy to ask.

As long as I carry on life this way, I will continue to learn and grow.
I feel great!

Share with me your thoughts

cheers, Devi

Rules that trigger off my happiness - by Sandra

So exactly what are the rules that triggers off your happiness..

Tony Robbins talked about trigger. Trigger are the set of rules that decide how you feel.
I learnt that I feel appreciated only if the following rules are satisfied
1. people would have to praise me
2. people would have to smile at me
3. people would have to thank me sincerely
4. I would have to do it perfectly, meeting my own high standard
and more

Then I realised oh God, so many conditions, and none is within my control.

So I have made it so hard to feel appreciated and be happy.

What if people are busy and did not praise me. What if in the rush, they sound routine and not sincere. What if my standard is so high that I could not meet it.

So I keep beating myself up.

Now I know why I feel lousy all the time.

I decided to change my criteria to feel appreciated. It is still important for me to feel appreciated to be happy.
My new rules of feeling appreciated are now
1. I do things for people
2. I enjoy doing it
3. It helps them

A smile and praise would be good, but no longer are the rules anymore.

Now I feel relief and I could be happy most of the time.

See how simple is this, by changing the rules that trigger my happiness, I set myself up to be happy most of the time.

People around me sense the change in my state. My happiness index is a lot higher now.

Try it and let me know how it works for you.

cheers, Sandra

Whats wrong with me? by Linda

I am Linda. Before today, I feel that life is so unfair to me. The question I keep asking myself is "whats wrong with me?" "why all these bad things keep happening to me?"
I have no control of life and everything is breaking down for me.

I just lost my boyfriend and this is the 8 times. Why cant I keep my boyfriend? I really love them. "Whats wrong with me?"

Today, I attended Tony Robbins workshop, I learnt that I have asked the fking wrong question all the time. By asking "whats wrong with me?" I am attracting all the "wrong" results to me.

Today, I change my question to "How can I share my gift with people around me". I feel happier because I have things to share. I no longer focus on myself, I shift the focus on how I can help people instead.

I came out of the seminar liberated, all the tension is eased off my face and my body. People around me noticed the difference.

I hope you are asking the right question. Otherwise it is time to change.

Tell me more about your question in your life.
Love to hear from you.

cheers, Linda

I can feel your manly presence- by Bimo

For a long time, the only way I knew of how to get attention from girls is to make a fool of myself. I will dance and do silly acts just to catch their attention. People call me names like "clown", "joker".. You get the picture. No one really care about me. Yes I can get a few gigglish laughter from the ladies, but nothing more.

Until that special day, I was taught how to put forth my manly presence. I saw this girl, she was laughing at me when I was on stage. She was prejudging me, I can see that. I like her, I feel the pain that everyone was prejudging me. Yet I hold back my pain. I put on my manly presence. I stop my dance. I stay right into her eyes, feeling her love. Through my eyes, I tell her how much I feel for her, how much I like her. Interestingly I watch her getting nervous, and putting her legs down, standing strong, as though she was trying to resist the energy I am sending her.

At that point I knew, I have pierced through her heart that at some level we connected.

I love this moment. It is a breakthrough in my life.

I am transformed. I no longer need to do silly act to get attention. I now know I can be my real me and yet I can get girls attention for my real me.

This is a precious moment of my time. i will treasure it for a long long time to come.

If you know what I mean, leave me your comments.

cheers, Bimo

The five languages of love - by Paula

Any time you feel tensure in your relationship, it is a sign of trouble.

Being aware of it helps you do the right things before it becomes a big issue.
Remember each of us have different needs and understand love differently.
I have 3 sons, each of them express love and feel love differently. To Ryan, my youngest boy, love is spending time together, love is telling each other, love is touch. Yet to Lionel, my second boy, love is about spending time together and doing things for each other. He does not verbalise love and does not like touch. So each one of us is different when come to expressing love and feeling love.

Once we are aware of the different languages of love, next is to apply the right type of language of love to help the other person feel loved.

The 5 languages of love are:
Quality Time
Act of service
Touch
Verbalise
Gifts

I find that this rules apply to all kinds of relationship. Open your eyes and feel the needs of people around you. Life would be different if you do that.

Tell me more about your story.

cheers, Paula

I don't feel love anymore - by Koko

I have a fulfilling life. My children love me. They are now grown up.
Its enough for me even though i do not feel the love from my husband.

Is it true that as we grow older, the fire and love would dwindle and dissappear?

Some say I should rekindle our love. I dont feel that I have any love left for him.
Am I selfish? Am I not entitled to live my life the way I want it?
I feel guilty every time I want to leave him.

The gift of our marriage are my 4 lovely boys and girls. I would have done it again just for them.

I dont know what to think anymore. I am happy to be with my children even though I dont feel any love from my husband anymore. I keep myself occupied by doing stuff and travelling and basically keeping myself busy.

How many of you are in my position, I like to hear from you.

penning off now, Koko

I waited 28 years for you to tell me "I love you" - by Juliette

Like all typical marriage, I marry a man who only knows how to work and provide for the family.
He works long hours and he never tell me "I love you". Oh how I wish you could just tell me and give me a hug. I need your assurance every day.

I know you love me. I can see how hard you work for the family. I work for the family too, not just you. Surely you can show your love by telling me.
Oh how I yearn for the 3 words from you.

I waited for 28 years, until one day at a workshop on relationship, with the encouragement of the coach, finally I hear you telling me what I wanted to hear so much. Even though you wake up 430am every morning for work, and I may still be asleep. I still would like you to wake me up and tell me how much you love me. I need your assurance, I need to feel alive again.

On that day at the workshop, you tell me you love me and you seal it with a heartwarming squeeze and hug. At that moment I feel your love. I know you still love me. I wish this moment last forever.

Oh, don't go back to your old self, let your real you come out and play. Its ok to have fun, to be sensual and sexy again. Who says sex is only for the young. I feel young, thats all that matter.

I love you.. I love you.. I love you.. Let this moment last forever. Let it vibrate into the universe and bounce back to us again and again.

I love you too, Juliette

My love story - Jamie, the feminine man

Hi friends

I have a special story to tell. I am different since birth. I feel my feminity trapped in the body of a man. I am Jamie the man or the feminine man ?

I have a boy friend. We write small sweet notes to each other, we text each other, we do all the lovey dovey stuff yet.. I feel empty. Since July last year, something happened between us. We never get intimate again. I want to close the gap I dont know how.

Till one day, I meet my mentor. He said that I am too uptight, I should let my feminity come out, let my dark side come out. I was afraid, do I have a dark side? i am always expected tobe prim and proper in front of my parents, I cannot be a bad boy or get into trouble. I never knew I have a dark side. He said, the dark side is my sensual sexy side. Once I am relaxed, my real self will come out. I like it, I dance wildly with a bunch of girls and I feel sexy again.

I hope it has cured me. I now learn to relax. I have hope that when I am relaxed, it would allow me to get closer to my boyfriend.

I am grateful to my mentor.

How many of you are trapped in your body? Let it out, let your real self come out and have some fun, it wont hurt.

Share your stories with me. I am sure I am not the only one.

cheers, Jamie

Love story of Kimmy

I am Kim, the strong one. In my work I have to kick butts, so I develop muscle to be strong so they cannot see my feminine side in case they think I am weak.

After a long time, I forget about my feminity. I have boy friends but not for long. My longest relationship last only 2 months.

Whats wrong with me?

One day, I wake up and discover my feminine side, my dark side, Rocky. Rocky is wild and sexy. She dance with such sensuality that any man would fall for her. I love my new identity. Now I have more boy friends. I am taking my time to look for the one that can feel me, feel the love inside me. It doesnt matter if it takes some time.

I learn to use my feminity more, thats actually my core self. I have masked it with masculinity for so long that I forgot how happy and joyful I am to be intouch with my core self again.

It is indeed a relief to be free again, free to be my real self.

Penning off here. Share your stories with me.

Kimmy or Roxy

MyLoveStory

Hey friends,

Glad you found your way here.

In this blog, you will find your self getting in in the mood of love! Love has never been smooth sailing for many. That is why so many stories of love are told throughout the history of man. Jump on and read about the best heart wrenching love stories, sweet romantic stories or cute funny love stories contributed by the readers

See you here again.

cheers, Paula